I read an article that was arguing whether parents monitoring their children is parenting or snooping. There are many new softwares that allow parents to see what their child is doing online. Some argue that this is evasion of privacy and others claim that parents are responsible for protecting their children at any costs. Is this a line that no parent should ever cross?
I think that if a teenager found out that their parents were aware of every single thing they did, they would retaliate by out smarting their advances. Parent surveillance 24/7 would make them even more bent on trying to get away with whatever they're doing.
However, I do think there should be a middle ground. I don't think it's right for a parent to constantly be aware of every little thing their kid does. This would just lead to mistrust in the family. But I do think that checking in randomly every once in a while would be appropriate.
I partially disagree with you. I do think that parents shouldn't cross the line and should give their child some space, but it also depends on the type of child they have. If they had a reckless child, I think frequent checking and snooping is necessary to make sure that their kid doesn't do something that will ruin the future. If their child was more behaved, I think occasional checking is okay.
ReplyDeleteI just try to put myself in a parent's shoes and try to look at it from their perspective. As a parent, you'd want to protect your child at all costs. If you were a parent, wouldn't you want to know what your child has been doing? Where your kid has been going? As kids, parents snooping around or checking on us is pretty annoying and can seem as an invasion of privacy. But from a parent's perspective, they're only doing it to keep us safe.
I agree with what Jasmine added on because it really does depend on the type of child they have.
ReplyDeleteIf their child is well behaved and a hard worker then I don't believe there's a reason for a parent to have access to every single part of the child's phone or computer.
If a parent is really concerned about where a child is or what they're doing then there's the route of communication. That helps avoid the child losing trust in a parent and even builds a stronger bond. A parent just asking a child about what's going on rather than snooping to find out themselves is bound to cause a lot less problems between them.
I've only ever seen a parent snooping through a child's personal things as necessary if the parent knows their child isn't trustworthy. Otherwise it could be a slap in the face to the child who does their best to simply gain their parents' approval.